- Physical or emotional “trigger”
- Consumed by thoughts
- Plots, plans, schemes
- Loss of concentration
- Judgment impaired
Recruitment
- Movement to resolve pain
- Enlistment, enticement, seduction
- Risk
Gratification
- Object of hunt is attained
- Other person steps into desired role
- Thrill of conquest
- Victimization of other party
Return to Normal
- Feel calm, peaceful
- “Switch” turned off
- Mood altered
Justification
- Pain resurfaces
- Rationalizations
- Depersonalization of victim
Blame
- Focus on own neglect or abuse
- Refuse to accept responsibility
- Lay problem at another’s feet
Shame
- Blaming seems inadequate
- Horror at own actions
- What sort of person must I be?
- Stuff feelings
Despair
- Elation-depression cycle
- Utter despair
- Resolve to fix what is broken
Promises
- “Never again” list of promises
- Fear of breaking promises
- Return to start of cycle
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