20 Random Truths about Love

1. "Love in it's truest sense is not based on feelings." 
2. "Kindness is Love in action. If patience is how Love reacts in order to minimize a negative circumstance, Love acts to maximize a positive circumstance." 
3. "Patience avoids a problem; kindness creates a a blessing. One is preventive; the other, proactive." 
4. “The only way love can last a lifetime is if it's unconditional. The truth is this: love is not determined by the one being loved but rather by the one choosing to love.” 
5. “Almost every sinful action ever committed can be traced back to a selfish motive. It is a trait we hate in other people but justify in ourselves. ” 
6. “Patience gives your spouse permission to be human. It understands that everyone fails. When a mistake is made, it chooses to give them more time that they deserve to correct it. It gives you the ability to hold on during the rough times in your relationship rather than bailing out under the pressure.” 
7. “There must be a stronger foundation than mere friendship or sexual attraction. Unconditional love, agape love, will not be swayed by time or circumstances. ” 
8. “Nobody knows you as well as our spouse. And that means no one will be quicker to recognize a change when you deliberately start sacrificing your wants and wishes to make sure his or her needs are met. ” 
9. “You must choose to live by encouragement rather than by expectations.” 
10. “That word is 'willing.' It's an attitude and spirit of cooperation that should permeate our conversations. It's like a palm tree by the ocean that endures the greatest winds because it knows how to gracefully bend.” 
11. "Love makes you kind. And kindness makes you likable."
12. "You will never learn to love until you learn to demonstrate kindness."
13. "Love is built on two pillars that best define what it is. Those pillars are patience and kindness."
14. "Patience is a choice to control your emotions rather than allowing your emotions to control you."
15. "Patience is where love meets wisdom. And every marriage needs that combination to stay healthy."
16. "Few of us do patience very well, and none of us do it naturally. But wise men and women will pursue it as an essential ingredient to their marriage relationships. That’s a good starting point to demonstrate true love."
17. "Nothing irritates others as quickly as being rude. However you look at it, no one enjoys being around a rude person."
18. "The truth is, love does not get angry or hurt unless there is a legitimate and just reason in the sight of God."
19. “Love chooses to believe the best about people. It gives them the benefit of the doubt. It refuses to fill in the unknowns with negative assumptions. And when our worst hopes are proven to be true, love makes every effort to deal with them and move forward. As much as possible, love focuses on the positive.” 
20. "Whatever you put your time,energy and money into,it will become more important to you.It's hard to care for something you're not investing in."

 (from The Love Dare, by Stephen Kendrick)